Your complete guide to understanding female sexual arousal

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Added on: Jul 16, 2021

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Understanding how female sexual arousal works can be quite tricky. When it comes to arousing women in bed, there are various techniques to follow. Every woman is unique, and different techniques work for different women. However, it is important to know the various techniques that you can use to increase sexual desire in bed. In this blog by Love Depot, let us look at how to turn women on and what turns them off.

Female sexual arousal may seem like a complicated subject. However, it is not at all complicated. Some techniques can be practised outside of the bedroom to trigger sexual arousal in women. Techniques outside of the bedroom focus on brain chemistry and emotional intelligence which can surely help build female sexual pleasure.

Arousing women- Outside the bedroom

Simple public display of affection-

Simple things like holding hands or a peck on the cheek can transform your dynamic with your partner. Not only are these techniques insanely cute, they definitely can be a turn on for women as there are 40,000 nerve endings in the palm. Next time you’re going on a walk with her, don’t shy away from holding hands. When women see that you are not afraid or embarrassed to be seen around them, or rather, happy to be around them, they can get turned on.

A warm hug-

Somedays are truly bad, especially because of the pandemic. If she is having a bad day, a warm embracing hug can help build intimacy. Sex experts recommend hugging for 20 seconds and more if you like. Hugs are comforting and show that you care. It is a sweet, and thoughtful gesture that shows your partner that you care for them outside of your bedroom as well. Ironically, that helps build female sexual arousal!

Maintain eye contact-

Not maintaining eye contact is a huge turn off for women especially when they are talking to you. Gazing into each other’s eyes is a powerful way to build sexual tension. It is recommended to practise this both during sex and outside of a sexual setting. Maintaining eye contact helps them know that you are listening and any man that listens can win the heart of a woman. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, then try to take 2 minutes to look into each other’s eyes. Once a month would do too. Don’t talk and accept the outcome that may not be sexual, such as an awkward laugh! Be vulnerable, goofy and silly around each other.

Flirt with her-

It may not be possible to increase sexual desire in just a few minutes, but there are techniques to build that tension, slowly, throughout the day. If you do not know your partner that well, start with a simple and cute text such as “I am excited to see you tonight.” Slowly, if she is comfortable and flirts back, try and send something more sexual like “I cannot resist myself around you” or something along those lines. Not only does this help with building female sexual arousal, but it also shows that you are excited to be with her.

Female sexual arousal- In a sexual setting

Now that we have learnt some tips that help build female sexual arousal, let us also look at few tips that help in the bedroom.

Focus on foreplay-

Spending time on foreplay is key when it comes to arousing women. These extra few minutes help build tension and passion in bed. You can make use of toys like bullet vibrators or G-Spot vibrators as well. Focusing on foreplay can turn women on because it shows that you wish to pay attention to all parts of her body. A gentle kiss on the neck or a passionate kiss on the lips can show your interest in her while turning her on. Additionally, you can use vibrators on other erogenous zones as well.

Massages-

Massage oil or wax is such a powerful tool when it comes to female sexual arousal. A massage can help her feel comfortable, and relax completely. Such an erotic gesture helps ease tension as well. A massage after sex is also a sweet and recommended gesture as sex can get tiring.

Roleplay-

Roleplaying is a very common practice by couples all around the world. Different people have different fetishes. For example, some enjoy BDSM, whereas some enjoy taking up characters. Roleplaying calls for dirty talk which can completely transform your sex life. Making steamy statements are all very important parts of sex. Next time you are in bed, try to compliment her body, or her performance and see how that feels.

Surprise her-

Surprise her with perhaps a sex toy such as anal beads, handcuffs etc. New experiences increase the thrill that she experiences during sex. If you do not wish to gift her something, try a new position or gesture. Your willingness to try and experiment is an indication that you wish to please her in new and enjoyable ways. Another way to build female sexual arousal is to make the setting different or special. Planning a small getaway, or taking her out to a dinner show are all wonderful ways to turn women on.

Know her body-

While you may know the common erogenous zones of women, turn-ons are still relative. Understand what she likes and try to do that. For example, some women may have sensitive skin and may not like biting. While many other women like sex a little rough and wild. Another instance where it is important to understand your partner’s body is the clitoris. While having oral sex understand which techniques increase sexual desire in her. Therefore, it is not enough if you know what women like, but you should also learn what she likes.

Communicate openly-

This is perhaps the most important tip when it comes to female sexual arousal. Many women are left unsatisfied in bed and that can impact your dynamic. There is absolutely no shame in asking if she enjoyed and felt comfortable as well. Communication is recommended between two partners. It truly helps the couple to understand each other’s expectations and help draw boundaries as well. Remember that great sex won’t happen overnight and it is okay to not perform up to each other’s expectations. Talking about each other’s performance in bed, and listening to each other’s negative and positive comments on the same is a powerful way to achieve female sexual pleasure.

What not to do when it comes to female sexual arousal-

Here are some things that you need to avoid in bed and outside of bed.

Do not focus only on your satisfaction during sex
Do not push her when she is uncomfortable. Not practising consent is a huge turn off for women.
Referencing your previous experiences during sex is a big turn off.
Insulting their body, or personality both in bed and outside a sexual setting
Not kissing enough. While not all sexual relationships involve love, completely avoiding kissing is considered to be off-putting by many women.
Do not talk throughout sex. While dirty talk is encouraged, you also need to draw a line.
Not showing any gesture that you are enjoying yourself. Simple gestures like holding hands, smiling or moaning can all show that you are enjoying sex.

In conclusion, many techniques work when it comes to arousing women. At the end of the day, female sexual arousal is relative and completely depends on the partner. The most important takeaway would be to openly communicate with your partner to know her body, likes and dislikes. Understand and remind yourself that sex takes time and practice. Give her attention and respect her outside of the bed and during sex as well. Doing so will build emotional intimacy and leads the way to hot and passionate sex. For more such blogs, visit our website.

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There are several paths we take to achieving sexual pleasure. Everything we do during acts of sexual engagement is aimed at fulfilling sexual desire. There are plenty of erotic zones in a woman’s body. All you need to do is explore them and navigate to figure out how you can achieve ultimate sexual pleasure. Vibrators are a great aid in helping you get there. These sex toys and pleasure aidsare designed to provide you with safe sexual experimentation and also allow you to move past any fears or apprehension you may have about using various kinds of sex toys and different types of vibrators for women.

Before you check out the different types of vibrators or vibrator cost, let's first understand how you should choose a vibrator to give you an orgasm of your choice. The first step is to figure out what are the different types of vibrators you want. In simple terms, which part of your body gives you the most pleasure? Are you someone who enjoys clitoral stimulation? Does vaginal and G-spot stimulation do the job for you? Or are you into anal stimulation? Vibrators help you figure out what kind of stimulation works for you. After, all its all about exploring your body and your sexual preferenced.

Broad categories of various types of vibrators:

Internal Vibrators: They vibrators for women are inserted into the vagina and simulate the act of penetration during intercourse. They are often long, slender, cylindrical - fish shaped and made out of silicone or latex.
External Vibrators: They sex aids are used on external private parts such as the clitoris and labia. If you derive sexual pleasure from these parts, external vibrators are a great clitoral stimulation toy to start with. These toys can also be used during sexual intercourse as an additional pleasure aid.
Combination Vibrators: As the name suggests, this is a different type of vibrator for women that stimulates both internal as well as external genitalia. You can use these to stimulate the vulva, labia and clitoris as well as the vagina through penetration. These clitoral stimulation toys cum vaginal toys offer a double bonanza in terms of orgasms.
Anal Vibrators: These vibrators for women have a broad base and a long handle so that the head doesnt get stuck inside. They’re excellent aids for anal play.

At Love Depot, you have so many varieties of vibrators that you’ll be spoilt for choice! Let’s make it easier for you by presenting some of the different types of vibrators you can experiment with to kink up your sex life!

1. Clitoral Vibrator:

If you’re wondering if vaginal penetration is the only way to achieve sexual pleasure, you’ll be happy to know that's not the case. Your clitoris has 8000 nerve endings that are extremely sensitive to touch! In fact, that's twice the number of nerve endings present in the penis! Your clitoris is capable of giving you multiple orgasms when dealt with the right way. The clitoris has two components, one internal and one external. The external portion is easily accessible with a clitoral vibrator, that is enough to give you unforgettable orgasms! Pop culture has constantly told us that penetration is the only sure shot way to pleasure. Let’s get rid of that narrative shall we, because clitoral vibrators and clitoral toys give you pleasure and a lot more. Your clitoris is an important pleasure point and this type of vibrator makes sure that you’re well aware of that! In case you’re worried about the vibrator cost, don't worry. You will find several pleasure toys and different types of vibrators for women and clitoral toys that are extremely affordable on Love Depot.

2. Massage Wand:

Have you ever searched for vibrators online and have come across weird mic like things that are couched as ‘face massagers?’. Well, it's possible they make your cheeks feel great, but these little mics are actually meant to massage more intimate areas of your body such as for clitoral stimulation as well as stimulation of other external errogenous zones such as the labia, vulva and even other parts of your body.
Say hello to the massage wand, a relaxing vibrator that is sure to create magic when used with the right spells. The massage wand is a sex aids that discriminates among no one and is undoubtedly one of the best types of vibrators for women out there. Its a sex toy that is suitable for all female bodies and has adjustable vibrating intensitities that can be adjusted based on your mood. It has a round, broad-ish head and a long tail, which makes it super easy to hold. You can try various sex positions with the magic massage wand. So the next time you’re bored and solo, just get a DIY pleasure packed massage with your pleasure toys right at home!

3. Bullet Vibrator:

If you’re starting out with various kinds of sex toys and are looking for discreet sex aids, the bullet vibrator is a good place to start. Do not be deceived by their size, because these cute little vibrators can give you some pretty incredible orgasms! Bullet vibrators offer very targeted stimulation. The best part about this pleasure toy is that it can be attached to harnesses and dildos and offers a lot of flexibility in terms of intensity too. Since bullet vibrators are small, they are extremely convenient for travel too. You can also use a bullet vibrator on other erogenous zones of your body for greater stimulation. These different types of vibrators for women sound great, no? The bullet vibrator cost is quite affordable too!

4. Rabbit Vibrator:

If you’re looking for the best of both worlds - that is vaginal stimulation as well as clitoral stimulation, the rabbit vibrator is an ideal choice of a pleasure toy for you. As the name suggests, the vibrator looks like it has two bunny ears of disproportionate size attached to a smaller head for clitoral stimulation and a larger one for penetration, to help you stimulate that G - spot. What makes the rabbit vibrator so good, is that you get blended , two in one orgasms! Rabbit vibrators are one of the most popular sex toys as well as clitoral toys among women. These different types of vibrators for women are usually made out of silicone, latex or other body friendly chemicals that makes the process of stimulation very easy.

5. Wearable vibrator:

While your standard clitoral and bullet vibrators continue to be very popular, wearable vibrators are severely underrated and offer so much potential for unforgettable mind blowing orgasms. If you want hands-free sexual stimulation and really want to enjoy the full experience of going solo without constantly holding on to your vibrator, the wearable vibrator is the perfect choice for you. You can also use wearable vibrators outside the bedroom, since most of them are extremely quiet and make absolutely no sound. Depending on whether you want clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation or even anal stimulation, you have different types of vibrators to choose from.

6. Suction Vibrators:

Suction vibrators are a very different type of vibrator. They imitate oral sex (Yes) and is indeed a milestone in this sexual revolution. Clitoral suction vibrators create air pressure and in turn a vaccum following which the vibrator sucks on your clitoris, imitating what would typically take place during oral sex. Here comes a rather interesting part about this type of vibrator. Have you ever wondered what oral sex and penetrative sex at the same time feels like? You can indulge this curiosity by investing in a suction vibrator. It is literally a multi - orgasmic magic machine. Also, many women cannot orgasm through penetrative sex alone. They require clitoral stimulation as well as penetration to achieve sexual pleasure.

If you’re someone who wants to please their female partner, why not focus on the penetration bit, and let a suction vibrator as a sex aid take care of the rest? Various kinds of sex toys such as suction vibrators for women help both partners enjoy sex to the fullest!

7. The G-Spot Vibrator:

Ahh, the mysterious G-spot. People spend half their lives trying to find this cryptic pleasure paradise, and we really don't want women missing out on some great G-spot stimulation, do we? Women, after all deserve heightened sexual experiences and there’s nothing better than a G-spot vibrator to make them happen! As the name suggests, this type of vibrator has one mission, one aim - cut straight to the chase and hit the nail on the head. The G-spot is a notorious errogenous zone on the upper wall of the vagina, and is actually part of the same set of nerves that are present in the clitoris. The clioris has 8000 nerve endings, which means you can imagine how sensitive the G spit is! This sex aid is designed in such as way so as to perfectly tap into that orgasmically abundant zone to get your toes tingling. The G- spot vibrator is quite long and sleek, and does a good job of making pleasure happen. The G - spot vibrator cost varies based on brand and material, and you will find affordable pleasure toys, different types of vibrators for women, and various kinds of sex toys here at Love Depot.

8. Anal Vibrators:

An anal vibrator, as the name suggests is a vibrator that is designed to sexually stimulate the anus for both men and women. They produce vibrations in the rectum that give rise to pleasurable sensations. They have a larger base, many times even spherical to prevent the vibrator from getting stuck inside the anus. Remember, the anus does not produce natural lubrication, therefore its very important to use plenty of lube before you decide to use an anal vibrator. There are different types of vibrators such as vibrating anal probes, butt plugs and even beads. If you’re into anal play, an anal vibrator is the perfect sex aid that shoud be on your bedside table!

At Love Depot, shop from a range of clitoral stimulation toys, anal toys, different types of vibrators for women, foreplay toys, BDSM toys and more to indulge in orgasmic solo play and spice up your sex life!